1. Consent Is Non-Negotiable

• Only touch others, or their equipment, belongings, or toys, with clear, enthusiastic verbal permission.

• This includes things that may feel small or casual, like hugs, resting a hand on someone’s shoulder, or handling rope, floggers, or other gear.

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2. Respect Privacy and Confidentiality

• What happens here stays here. Do not share details about other attendees, their activities, or about the space outside the event.

• If you see someone from the event in public, only engage if you’ve both agreed it's welcome.

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3. Kink & Sexual Activity May Be Present

• This is a sex and kink positive space. If you feel uncomfortable at any time, you are welcome to look away, change locations, or take a break.

• At our regular venue, the yoga supply room and the room two doors down are designated chill zones. No sex or kink play are permitted in these spaces.

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4. Safer and Consensual Play

• All play must be fully consensual

• No edgeplay unless cleared with the host (EnjoyablePants) in advance.

• Avoid overly disruptive play (e.g., intense primal screaming or chaotic movement that could interfere with others).

• If you’d like to explore heavier play, consider requesting a monitored or co-regulated scene support system.

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5. Honor Active Scenes

• Give space to those in scenes. Some scenes require movement, props, or emotional vulnerability.

• Do not interrupt, join, or hover unless explicitly invited.

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6. Treat Everyone with Respect

• Respect others’ boundaries, identities, and expressions, no exceptions.

• If you don’t get along with someone, remain civil. Leave personal drama outside the space.

• We welcome authentic emotion and connection, but please be mindful of emotional impact. No mood vampirism or monopolizing others’ energy.

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7. Substances & Sobriety

• Cannabis and alcohol are permitted in moderation.

• If you’re intoxicated, you may not engage in play.

• No hard drugs allowed.

• Smoking/vaping is permitted outside only.

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8. Clothing and Public Areas

• Wear street-legal clothing when arriving, leaving, or entering shared/vanilla spaces.

• Having a cover-up handy is recommended.

• Please leave shoes in hallway of our main venue to keep things clean. Slippers are welcome. 

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9. Safe Words & Emotional Safety

• Our default safewords are:

  • Red – Full stop immediately.

  • Blue – Emotional distress or trauma trigger; please pause gently and check in.

• You’re welcome to negotiate your own safewords within your scene.

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10. Care for the Playspace

• Respect the venue. Clean up after yourself, especially after messy scenes.

• Use towels or puppy pads if bodily fluids are involved.

• Dispose of garbage properly and monitor your drinks. Unattended drinks = trash. Crumbs = ant bait. 

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11. Open Door Policy

• All doors (except bathroom stalls) must remain open during play for safety reasons.

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12. Photos & Phones

• No photography or video unless you have explicit consent from:

  • Everyone visible in the frame

  • The event host (EnjoyablePants)

• Phone cameras must be covered by removeable stickers/washi tape when you arrive & stay on until the end (except for when taking consensual photos.)

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13. Reporting & Accountability

• If something happens that makes you uncomfortable or violates these rules, please bring it to the host as soon as you feel safe doing so.

• Prompt communication helps us address things more effectively and keep the space safe for all.

• If someone violates the rules or creates unsafe dynamics, they may be asked to leave or be banned from future events. We do not tolerate retaliation of any kind, including doxing, harassment, threats, or online targeting of community members or the host. Bans are final, and attempts to bypass them may result in further community or legal action.

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14. Personal Responsibility & Risk Awareness

• You are responsible for your own safety, choices, and boundaries while at this event.

• The host and venue are not liable for any harm or loss of property.

• We do our best to curate a safer space, but please know:

  • Some attendees may be considered safe enough for public events but may not be safe choices for private play or deeper connection.

  • Trust and intimacy should be earned—take your time, get references if needed, and don’t assume someone is safe for you just because they’re here.

• Kink carries inherent risk, especially in physical, psychological, or power-based play.

  • Lack of knowledge, poor communication, or misunderstanding can cause real harm.

  • Even experienced players can make mistakes. Expertise doesn’t equal infallibility.

  • Use negotiation, safewords, and regular check-ins to reduce risk, but understand that no play is ever 100% safe.

• We encourage everyone to practice risk-aware consensual kink (RACK) and approach play with humility, respect, and ongoing learning.​

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15. No Creepy Vibes 

• If someone seems disinterested, distracted, closed-off, or simply not engaging back with you, take the hint and shift your energy elsewhere.

• Leering, hovering, or repeatedly engaging with someone who isn’t reciprocating may result in a check-in or removal, even if no specific rule was broken. Please never assume that just because you're interested, that they're interested back. 

• We reserve the right to ask anyone to leave if their energy or behavior is impacting the emotional safety of others, even without a formal consent violation.

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16. Leave Safely

• If you are driving after the event, ensure you are sober and in a good headspace.

• If not, please arrange a safe ride home or ask for support.

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