​​At our events, we prioritize consent, respect, and community well-being. This helps create a safe-enough container where connection, play, and presence can be more fulfilling, fun, and deeply human.

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Consent

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Consent means an enthusiastic “yes” given freely, clearly, and without pressure. It’s ongoing and can change at any time.

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Consent is not:

• “They didn’t say no.”

• “They didn’t stop me.”

• “They agreed once, so it’s always okay.”

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Check in. Listen. Respect the answer.

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Respect

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Respect means treating others as full humans with real boundaries and feelings.

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This includes:

• Listening when someone sets a boundary

• Taking “no” graciously, even if you feel disappointed

• Checking in rather than assuming interest

• Keeping everything that happens here confidential

• Arriving clean and with minimal scent (please avoid strong body odor, smoke, or heavy fragrance)

• Caring for shared spaces

• Not fantasy-pushing (don’t pull people into your kink or storyline without clear consent)

• Remembering that not everyone is here for sex, play, or touch as some folks are here to socialize, learn, or simply exist safely

• Respecting pronouns, gender, gender expression, sexuality, neurodivergence, disabilities, and different races

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Emotional safety matters too. Please avoid love-bombing, manipulation, contempt, or overwhelming the space with heavy processing. If something goes sideways, bring curiosity, accountability, and repair.

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How to not be Creepy

Creepy usually isn’t about intent. It’s about impact.

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Helpful things to practice:

• Don’t assume attraction or availability

• Notice body language (turning away, short answers, lack of eye contact often mean they're not interested)

• If someone isn’t engaging back, disengage

• Ask before touching or getting close

• One clear “no,” “maybe later,” or lack of enthusiasm = stop and shift​

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Being respectful and attuned is sexy. Entitlement is not.

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Sexual Health

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If engaging in sexual activity with otheres, we encourage everyone to take responsibility for their sexual health.

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That means:

• Knowing your STI status

• Sharing relevant info with partners

• Using barriers when appropriate

• Making choices that care for both yourself and others

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Why This Matters

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Consent and respect don’t just prevent harm. They create space for trust, pleasure, joy, and real connection. 

 

You deserve to feel safe, valued, and empowered to say yes, no, and maybe, and so does everyone else.

Participation & Fit

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While we strive to be welcoming, attendance at our events is not guaranteed. Out of care for the whole community, we reserve the right to decline or revoke participation if someone’s presence, behavior, or stated intentions do not align with the values of consent, respect, and emotionally safe connection outlined above. This includes treating the space primarily as a hookup opportunity, engaging in manipulative or combative behavior, or repeatedly disrupting the shared space. This is not about punishment or judgment, but about stewarding a space where trust, safety, and genuine connection can flourish.

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In some cases, we may also decline attendance based on publicly available profile information, responses, or court records that suggest the space may not be a good fit.

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Disclaimer

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By attending events at this community space, I acknowledge that I am responsible for my own safety, nervous system, and belongings. I understand that this is a trauma-aware space, not a trauma-free one, and that I am responsible for noticing my own activation and tending to myself as needed. I agree to take care of myself, respect others, and participate at my own risk.​​